Dear Friends: The #metoo movement is doing a good thing to raise awareness about spousal abuse, but there is another side to the coin that makes me very uneasy.
Fortunately I have the sort of wife who would never, ever do this sort of thing because she is a moral woman who leads an exemplary life according to a strict set of principals!
But that's no the case for everyone:
By Christopher Carlin
Fortunately I have the sort of wife who would never, ever do this sort of thing because she is a moral woman who leads an exemplary life according to a strict set of principals!
But that's no the case for everyone:
By Christopher Carlin
If the jury believes her story, of course they'll bring in a guilty verdict. And if that happens, I MAY be able to avoid jail time for you…but maybe not. Domestic violence is taken very seriously here in Massachusetts, and you could well up wind up doing 6 months or more if found guilty. I'm willing to do whatever you want, but it might be in your best interests to just plead out, avoid jail time and walk away from this whole miserable mess. I know you're innocent…but it might be the best course of action for you.”
What would you have done?
So as I said, I did indeed end up pleading out (jail was so hideous I wasn't even willing to RISK a possible return to it, even if the chance of that happening was 50/50 or less; who knows what a jury may do or believe?), and am now a convicted felon.
Aside from the $5,000 I paid for my lawyer, I must shell out another $2,000 for “Anti-domestic violence classes”, which nonsense I must sit through every Tuesday night for 2 hours for the next THIRTY EIGHT WEEKS, and I'm also doing Community Service at a local food bank to pay for some of my court costs and probation fees. But there are other court costs that cannot be worked off by Community Service and must be paid out of pocket; these will come to about another $350.
So essentially, my wife has made me homeless, nearly ruined me financially, and has tarnished my legal reputation permanently. Even as I write this, she sits in the apartment we lived in, watching MY flat-screen tv, sleeping in MY king-sized bed, and relaxing on all MY furniture. And for 4 or 5 months, the court forced me to pay the utilities there and also her cell phone bill.
I'm 57 years old and have been through some shit, but this past year has truly been a living hell; and I don't exaggerate when saying that. I came VERY close to just giving up and hanging myself. I never would have survived without the help of my friends, and will always be grateful to them; many times they really went above and beyond for me.
I'm in a new apartment, and it's a dump, but I'm grateful to have it. And my landlord has promised to move me to better accommodations in a nicer building across the street sometime soon.
My wife tried to destroy me…but she failed. Because I'm still here and still alive, and have managed to pick up the pieces.
But at great cost. Physically, mentally, emotionally and financially. My credit's been destroyed. My hair has gone gray. I lost 35 pounds over the course of this year, and nearly developed an ulcer. I felt miserably ill for months. My car was repossessed, and I now take public transportation everywhere.
I won't go into what an evil harpy my wife is, a piece of human trash, etc., etc., etc.But I've often asked myself; HOW does my wife SLEEP at night?
How does she live with what she's done to me? Knowing she had me imprisoned on a false charge? Having full knowledge of what she did to my life?
I can honestly say that I could NEVER, EVER do to someone what my wife's done to me, not in a million years; no matter HOW angry or upset I was. I simply don't have that kind of vindictiveness in me.
She goes to this kooky spiritualist church twice a week, and I guess she thinks that makes her a good person, and okay with God.
Unfortunately, my story is a sadly common one here in Massachusetts (or “Missachusetts”, as men here often call it, with good reason).
And unfortunately, women here seem to do what my wife did to me alot. They know how the law works, and they know they can have a man arrested at the twitch of their little finger, and solely upon their WORD.
I've learned something about women. And what I've learned is; if a woman feels you've done her wrong or disrespected her or made her unhappy in some way, she will go over the top in ways most men NEVER would. Because I think most men…most PEOPLE, in fact, …understand that there are certain things you're not entitled to do to other people and in fact shouldn't do, because it's morally wrong and reprehensible; screw with their livelihood, bear false witness against them, throw them in jail, destroy their lives or reputations. But ‘Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.’
And when the fairer sex feel they've been wronged, it seems to me that all bets are off the table, and they're willing to do ANYTHING to get what they perceive to be even, and as far as they're concerned it's totally justified and you're just getting what's coming to you.Women can be dangerous and unstable…and incredibly vindictive, is what I've learned.And that's the worst thing a woman can do to a man; and certainly the worst thing that a woman's ever done to me.
But I’ve survived, you hateful bitch.
Like I said folks, this is the other side of the coin and frankly, it scares the shit out of me!And I'm still fucking here.
The way I see it anyway!
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